A Child Is Running My Life

“Most of the beliefs that we hold about who we are, how people treat us and how life works came from guesses we made in childhood. We watched people as they interacted with each other (and us), their body language, facial expressions, shifts in mood/energy, etc. and made decisions about the causes of each effect.

These meanings we defined in childhood are often the same rules we use as we navigate life as adults. Unless we’ve received new information that completely obliterates the old beliefs, we’ll keep those messages for life.”

When Your Survival Tactic Threatens Your Survival

“People see all I’ve done and assume that I am struggling because I’m just not trying hard enough. And the reality is that I’m drowning, asking for help, and not receiving it. I’m waving from the center of the ocean and everyone’s on the shore waving back, not realizing I am out here fighting for my life.”

Presence Over Paychecks: What Women Really Want

What often gets lost in the shuffle are the intentions that sparked that go-getter perspective. It’s not that provision doesn’t matter. It’s that provision without presence erodes relationships.
If you’re a man who’s doing all he can to provide and you seem to get nothing but complaints about you not being home, this is for you. I’m on your side.
This is not a lecture… at all. I’m just sharing a story and I hope it helps make things a little clearer.