Empowerment | Self-Acceptance | Parenting | Growth
When you’re drowning in an ocean, anything floating in that water looks like a potential life raft. You’ll grab onto it hoping and trusting it’s going to save you. It feels like a blessing, the answer to your problem.
Some “evil” people count on that. They seek out desperation because they know it impairs judgment. They know our need will cause us to see treasure in fool’s gold.
I have been fooled so many times like this. And I’d like to tell you a little bit about it.
“Most of the beliefs that we hold about who we are, how people treat us and how life works came from guesses we made in childhood. We watched people as they interacted with each other (and us), their body language, facial expressions, shifts in mood/energy, etc. and made decisions about the causes of each effect.
These meanings we defined in childhood are often the same rules we use as we navigate life as adults. Unless we’ve received new information that completely obliterates the old beliefs, we’ll keep those messages for life.”
What if they don’t have an attitude? What if they’re just having a bad day, week, month, semester, school year? What if they’re not being rude, they’re sad, lonely, overwhelmed, feeling left out, unattractive, or disappointed in themselves?
What if it’s not about you?
“People see all I’ve done and assume that I am struggling because I’m just not trying hard enough. And the reality is that I’m drowning, asking for help, and not receiving it. I’m waving from the center of the ocean and everyone’s on the shore waving back, not realizing I am out here fighting for my life.”
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