Probably my shortest podcast of all time, AND still a powerful one. I had an epiphany today that came as the result of a mistake. I’m so grateful it happened, because this is lesson I needed to learn.
Check it out.
Tap the play button to listen to today’s podcast. Tap & hold first if necessary, then tap play.FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Press play to listen to today’s podcast. Blessings!
Oh… BTW… Here are some affirmations I came up with yesterday while I was on my way. I wrote them down at the red lights to practice with my inner child. Gotta rewire the tendency to feel bad for these things.
So if you need to do this inner rewiring as well, try these: -“It’s not my job to keep everybody happy.” -“It’s not my job to live an uncomfortable life for everybody’s convenience.” -“I am good, even when I make mistakes.” -“I am allowed to make mistakes.” -“Even good people make mistakes.”
Write them down somewhere you’ll see them regularly (on a Post-It in your cubicle, on your bathroom mirror, in your Notes app, etc.). We need to remind ourselves until it becomes our natural next thought when we’re being hard on ourselves. We’re creating a new habit of thought to replace the old.
Hope this helps.
Blessings!
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
BTW Here’s the song I referenced in today’s podcast…
When I look back on my relationships, there’s definitely a pattern. Once I recognize I’ve been “chosen,” I race in, full of excitement, ignore the red flags, forget my intentions, and give it my all.
Tap the play button to listen to today’s podcast. Tap & hold first if necessary, then tap play.FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Press play to listen to today’s podcast. Blessings!
In retrospect, it’s always pretty embarrassing. I wonder how I forgot I said this was one I couldn’t trust, or this one was just temporary, or this one I wasn’t even interested in at all. Whether it’s a friend, partner, or business partner, there came a point when they said or did something that convinced me that I was chosen and that they “saw” me. And that meant everything to me, because it meant that they saw me as significant.
“One of the most dangerous things for a person to come across in their lives is a person with ill intentions who recognizes the one thing they want more than anything.” — Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
One of the most dangerous things for a person to come across in their lives is a person with ill intentions who recognizes the one thing they want more than anything.Why? Because they’ll become the greatest actor, and offer what the person clearly wants, just long enough to gain their loyalty and devotion. Then, they can easily get what they really came for.
So whether it’s a homeless narcissist who quickly “falls in love” because he needs a place to stay, or a person with no credentials who claims sisterhood so she can convince you to use your degree and accomplishments to partner with her in business, there are actually people out there who partner with others, by offering to feed your hunger, because they know that’s the quickest way to get what they want.
If you’ve ever (unfortunately) experienced a narcissist, that’s how, and why, lovebombing works. They quickly figure out what you need most (what you’re hungry for) and offer it until you’re fully all in. They get what they want, and when they’re done using you, they snatch that meal right back.
As I reflect on the graveyard of my past relationships, I see that each time I accepted the bare minimum because I was hungry.
Yesterday, I had an epiphany regarding where this hunger came from. And today, as I was scrolling Instagram, a video crossed my path that brought tears to my eyes. It echoed the exact same message. And upon seeing it, I knew I had to share this with you.
On today’s podcast, I talk about my epiphany and how the video impacted me. So press play (above) to listen to today’s podcast. Also, I’ll leave the Instagram video, that confirmed my hunch, below.
I hope this will help you gain some answers, some healing, and some closure, as I did.
My first mentor taught me a valuable lesson that I never forgot. I was in the middle of a really tough situation, because I said, “Yes,” when my gut told me early on that it was a “no.” After I shared my story with her, she said, “God will teach you a lesson in a way that you’ll never forget it.”
Well, for some reason, although I got that lesson, I missed the deeper lesson. Although the details of the scenarios changed, time after time I found myself in situation after situation where I knew early on that it felt like it was a “no,” but I still said, “Yes.”
Late last night, (well, actually early this morning) I came to a conclusion. I realized I had been looking at situations too specifically. When I said, “I won’t do that again,” I was looking at a specific person, a specific decision, etc., but I was missing the general rule.
Tap the play button to listen to today’s podcast. Tap & hold first if necessary, then tap play.FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Press play to listen to today’s podcast. Blessings!
On today’s podcast, I figured out the rule. And I believe that sticking with this rule is going to save me from a lot of frustrating moments, a lot of burning bridges, and from improperly investing my energy and time.
I realized two common threads were present in my numerous uncomfortable past situations. One, I didn’t feel at ease, but I said, “Yes,” anyway. Two, I said, “Yes,” out of a sense of fear and desperation. I said, “Yes,” despite feeling uneasy, unavailable, and unaligned, simply because I was afraid of missing out on a potential opportunity. That fear came from desperation…..
Okay, I said enough. Check out the podcast. Listen all the way to the end, even if you have to break it up and listen 10 minutes at a time. You don’t want to miss the ending, but you’ll need the build up to fully get it.
Anywho, enjoy the podcast. I hope you gain a lot from it, as I did.
ADHD is fun. And by fun I mean a cruel time waster. So let me tell you a story…
So all day I was craving some soup. I make soup in a particular pot. Because ADHD I took a while (some hours) to actually get motivated to grab the pot, to make the soup. So I got up and looked in all the usual places and couldn’t find the pot. So I rested for a few hours and then decided to try again. I looked in another spot, and couldn’t find the pot.
At some point, I realized I was too hungry to wait to find the pot to cook this soup. I’d have to just eat something else. So I went in the refrigerator, made a quick bowl of awesomeness including quinoa that was in the pot in the fridge. I enjoyed my vegan meal, did some work, went back to resting.
Urge came up later, that I needed something to eat so I should get up and find that pot so I could make my soup. After searching EVERY logical place for the pot, I still didn’t find it. I was a little frustrated, but just decided it was already 10pm so I guess I just wouldn’t eat.
So around 10:15, a thought crossed my mind. The last time I couldn’t find the pot, it ended up being in the fridge. I had cooked rice in it. And it was right about then that I realized that not only did I grab quinoa from THE POT to make myself a vegan bowl earlier. I also grabbed that SAME POT hours ago to make my daughter’s dinner plate.
So now, at 10:40, I am making my soup, because I am very hungry.
*BTW feel free to save your “that’s not ADHD, I do that all the time” comments. Not interested. (You may lowkey have it, too. 😆)
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