Day 8 “The Balance of Being There for Everyone” #LIVINGMYTRUTH Share & Let’s Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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Oops… had an ADHD moment and realized at 11:59 CST that I didn’t post the podcast. Giving myself grace. Enjoy.
Quick warning: around 7 minutes in I scream, but I’m fine. I’ll explain what happened right after. I tried to adjust the volume so it won’t be so jarring.
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I’m grateful that nowadays people speak openly about mental health, seeing therapists, and experiencing our emotions. It is not an uncommon thing to hear (and it’s even become a hashtag) “It’s okay to not be okay.” But what does that even mean?
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Not everyone was raised to feel safe in all their emotions. Many grew up in environments where we were expected to be happy, but not too happy, to internalize sadness, and to let it go if we had the audacity to feel angry.
Simply saying, “it’s okay” to feel and emote does not necessarily cause a person to grant themselves permission. We do the bulk of our learning before we turn 7 years old. By then we know the consequences and expectations of responding and reacting with our emotions. And it may take a long time, or intentional effort, to train ourselves out of decades of habits of masking, swallowing, and stifling our emotions.
It may feel weird to allow ourselves to sit in certain emotions, or even wrong. And as someone who is new to this, I will say it still feels super awkward. There is much shame around being unhappy. Maybe in church you were taught that you should be ashamed for being sad given all God has done for you. Or maybe in your upbringing you were labeled “ungrateful” for feeling disappointed when you received a gift that wasn’t quite the one you asked for. Or maybe your parents dared you to cry (threatened your safety if you cried) when you were getting your butt whooped or had just fallen and really hurt yourself.
We have so many reasons for why we hold in our emotions and why we may not feel safe to express them. Today, I gave myself permission to feel the way I feel… and it was new, but it also was the most loving thing I could’ve done.
If this resonates with you at all, check out today’s podcast. I share my own story of where I was today and a bit of how my past impacts that. I hope that through my story you’ll find some peace, comfort, or even courage to be where you are.
On my Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily podcast (and are able), please consider sending me a $5 tip via Buymeacoffee. It’s a great way to support without breaking the bank. (No pressure, of course. If you’re unable, please know I understand.)
Thank you so much for being here! Thank you for reading and listening. And double thank you for liking, commenting, and sharing. It matters so much. 🥰
Sometimes for the sake of our mental health we need to change our minds. Maybe we said, “Yes,” when we were feeling good, or before we had time to assess other factors. We don’t want to disappoint people, so we stick with whatever we said before, even when we know we don’t have the bandwidth for it.
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Sometimes we are so loose with our boundaries that people around us make plans for us and let us know later. They assume that because of who they are, because of what we’ve always done, and because we don’t have __ (a life, a spouse, typical plans, etc.) that they can schedule us without our consent or consideration.
Sometimes our natural obligations as a partner, spouse, parent, employee, etc. cause us to give and give and give, out of our sense of responsibility and obligation, and we don’t think much of it, until we feel burned out.
Today, I chose to do what was best for me because the way I felt after years and decades of doing all of the above, I just couldn’t do it, today. I missed out on things I wanted to do because my body was so run down.
So today I shared on the podcast about this and offered you—especially you who feel you have no choice because people are counting on you/you don’t want to disappoint anyone—an opportunity to pivot from this unhealthy practice.
I have no regrets about my choice today. I put my mental health first and I’ll make peace with the multiple events I missed today. It was the right thing to do… for me.
Blessings! Check out the podcast.
Check out today’s podcast! Day 6 “Change Your Yes to a No” #LIVINGMYTRUTH Share & Let’s Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
On my Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily podcast (and are able), please consider sending me a $5 tip via Buymeacoffee. It’s a great way to support without breaking the bank. (No pressure, of course. If you’re unable, please know I understand.)
Thank you so much for being here! Thank you for reading and listening. And double thank you for liking, commenting, and sharing. It matters so much. 🥰
Update: The podcast below is a post-election addition to this blog post which was written prior to the November 2024 US presidential election. So many people are feeling a sense of hopelessness right now, and I want to share some empowerment, and how I’m feeling about this season. Definitely encouraging. Check it out. Remember I cuss… plenty. lol
“Ain’t nobody God but God.” An interesting phrase that I just heard as I was listening to O’landa Draper. And it made me think about how so many of us are feeling powerless and defeated in the face of this upcoming election.
Tap the play button to listen to today’s podcast. Tap & hold first if necessary, then tap play. FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Press play to listen to today’s podcast. Blessings!
One thing that I learned from being in relationship with a narcissist is that one of their main tactics is to convince you that you are powerless and they are all-powerful. Once they convince you that you have no say, you’ll give up and bow to their will, feeling you have no choice. That nothing you do will matter. And once you give in to that type of thinking, they’ve got you.
The thing that they know is where your power lies. So that will be one of the main things they attack. Every possible defense, especially the safety we find in numbers, is another area they attack. Divide and conquer. If they can get you fighting with their enemies, or convince them that they are actually on the same side…. Narcissists use everything at their disposal toward their own cause.
I am just grateful that I heard that one little powerful line. I needed that reminder to not bow down and give up my power. I don’t need to feel weak and powerless. I don’t need to feel scared and that it’s over. It’s July, not November. That’s another tactic. Convince you that you’ve already lost so why bother?
Whether it’s elections or relationships, we have to remember that no one can take our control unless we give it to them. At any given point, we can remember that we all come into this world the same and NO ONE has more power than anyone else, regardless of how it seems. In nature, every animal has strengths and vulnerabilities. None are all powerful. No matter how powerful they may seem.
So let’s breathe and remember where our power lies.
Blessings!
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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