Sometimes life gets to lifing and you don’t have space to fall out because you have responsibilities. It’s a luxury to pause to grieve, to pause to process a divorce, to pause and process life happening. Is the pause needed? Hell yeah. Do we always have the opportunity, and the space, and the financial security to do that? F*ck no.
Sometimes life gets to happening and all you can do is say, “Annnnnd f*ck it,” and keep it moving.
Granted, that’s a very odd thing to hear from somebody with a master’s in counseling. But along with my training in school, I was being trained by life. I know firsthand that life is not always easy. We don’t always have the luxury to sit down for weeks to regroup when life happens.
I’ve learned that sometimes you just got to vent when you can vent, cry when you can cry, see a therapist when you can see your therapist. And some moments you’ll be in the middle of doing your responsibilities, a painful thought will come to you, and you don’t have the room to break down. In those moments, sometimes the best thing you can do is take a deep breath and whisper to yourself, “Annnnd f*ck it.”
It’s a declaration similar to “it is what it is.” It’s a moment of realization that even though this sh*t hurts, I can’t change it. I’m not in a place of process that right now, because I have responsibilities. So in this moment, I’m gonna pivot my thoughts away from that until I can address it later.
Maybe after I get off work I can cry about it in the car. Maybe after the kids go to bed I can sit with my journal and make sense of what’s going on. But for right now, I can’t focus on that. So I’m just going to say, “Annnnd f*ck it,” and keep it moving.
On this episode, I am sharing my very real experience of navigating the space between being positive and dealing with the tough stuff in life. Press play. And don’t forget I cuss.
BTW… This is NOT a long term solution. I highly recommend you DON’T use this as your standard way of dealing with life. That sh*t will build up. So use the ideas above to release that thing a little bit at a time, talk to a friend, mentor, or see a good therapist (And if you have questions about therapy, or cannot afford one, check out my episode No Shame in Therapy).
Annnnd…. realize that thoughts and emotions don’t ask for permission. They show up when they want, and sometimes it’s not the best time. So we’ve gotta put them in the waiting room until we have the privacy to address them.
So if that’s where you are, please know I’m right there with you. Annnnd… f*ck it. 😂
Blessings!
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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