Healing the Parent-Child Relationship

I developed and published an online communication course for parents to help them restore/maintain connection with their children. Wow!

As a neurodivergent human, who struggles with executive dysfunction, I needed to remember what a huge undertaking that was for me. And how I successfully pulled it off despite the challenges. I’m super proud of myself.

Someone posted in a group I’m in about what was the last big undertaking/leap we’ve done in our business, and my course, Healing Our Families: Healing the Parent-Child Relationship came to mind. I honestly don’t often think about how much work it was. I’m always thinking about how many families know about the course.

But thinking about it in this way got me excited about it all over again. It’s such a great and helpful course. More families need to know about it. And this year, I’m taking it to another level!

I forgot that was my intention when I originally created it.

Publishing my course, Healing Our Families: Healing the Parent-Child Relationship was actually just step 1 in a much bigger plan. It just took so much time and effort that I forgot. The plan was always much bigger.

So now that it’s on my mind again, let me share my dream with you….

πŸ’‘ This year, I see myself doing in person trainings for parents. Me in a room of parents working through my course, live. Maybe on a parent night at schools. For a special short term series for parents offered at churches. During the day at local libraries. Or I’m one of many workshop presenters at a larger conference like the Black Women’s Expo or something similar. I see myself teaching, and parents break into small groups and we all come together to support each other in an interactive group setting, with me facilitating. This vision excites me. This is the kind of “work” I’d love to be paid well to do and that I’d be willing to travel for. This is the type of speaking I love. Interactive. Group. Collaborative. My goal is to be a paid speaker, doing this work by Q2 (April 1st ideally). If you have opportunities, or are looking for what I offer, please message me.

πŸ’‘ I see my course on computers in schools (some schools have parent resource rooms and computers parents can use during the day). I see them sitting and work through my course to help them develop better communication skills to bring more love, peace, understanding, and support to their children.
πŸ’‘ I see my course used as a resource for parents in mediation and dealing with child custody.
πŸ’‘ I see my course being used to prepare parents who have temporarily lost custody of their children, who are transitioning toward getting their children back.
πŸ’‘ I see my course as part of training for home daycare providers, caregivers working with children, and foster parents.
πŸ’‘ I see my course on computers in the public libraries offering parents the opportunity to sit with headphones and learn how to communicate with their children.

I’ve been told a million times that I don’t need to know the how, I just need to know the what and the why.

My course is the what. I created an online course for parents that teaches healthy communication skills. It not only teaches what to say, but also what not to say, and how our body language speaks volumes. My course also has journal reflection questions so that parents/caregivers can get a better understanding of how they are currently communicating, where their style came from, and decide if it’s healthy to continue communicating in the ways they do.

My why is because I believe that essentially our world is made of families. And if we want to heal our world, it starts with families. Because when you heal families, you heal communities. And when you heal communities, you heal cities. And when you heal cities, you heal states, provinces, and regions. And when you heal those, you heal countries. And when we heal countries, we heal our world.

I want to add my ripple to healing the world. And I believe that my Healing Our Families series of courses are a huge part of that. So I want to expand my course beyond helping a few families who find out about me through social media. (And I’m so grateful to help them, too. Every family counts and matters to me.)

AND I want to reach MILLIONS of families. Whether it’s through my online course on #Udemy, or through multiple cities purchasing licensing to use my course for various agencies, I want to have a big impact.

I want opportunities, ideas, and resources to develop my course so it can reach the masses. I believe it’s worthy. And I have more courses in the series that I’ve yet to publish.

Anyway…. if you have any ways that you can support (even if it is to hold space for me to see these visions become a reality), please share a supportive comment. I’m getting excited again and that’s a beautiful thing.

Thank you for reading and seeing the vision with me.

Blessings,

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

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Where Focus Goes

"I care about how I feel so I choose to care about where I focus my attention." Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist mdillondesigns.com

“I care about how I feel so I choose to care about where I focus my attention.” β€”Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

We often don’t pay attention to why we feel the way we do. It’s usually our thoughts about what we’re thinking about that cause shifts in our moods. So people we see as moody are likely people who think a lot and follow their thoughts until they shift their emotions.

It takes effort for a habitual overthinker to recognize that thoughts are suggestions of focus. We get to choose. We don’t have to entertain every thought that crosses our minds. We can let them drift by like clouds.

For some of us letting them drift by is too challenging. We can instead acknowledge the thought and tell it, “No, thank you. I don’t want to think about that right now.” We can tell it to go on about its business and choose to focus on something that makes us feel better.

This is one of the ways that we get to take control of our emotions and mental health. It works for me. Give it a try.

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

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Single on Valentine’s Day

To all my I-would-celebrate-it-if-I-was-in-a-relationship friends, I am wishing you (and me) a Happy Valentine’s Day!

I think the blessing of 1) having a birthday the day after Valentine’s Day AND 2) having been coupled but unhappy, I don’t take this day hard anymore. I used to.

One thing that I know for sure is that I want love that feels like love to me and I’m willing to be single until that’s what I have. There’s nothing lonelier than feeling alone when you’re with somebody. So I’m feeling empowered today, knowing that I get to design the ideal relationship for me. I get to see it, feel it, believe in it fully. I get to release old hurts and moments that changed my expectations. I get to believe I’ll be celebrating with the love of my life next year (ME) and Mr. Next if that’s how that’s how things unfold. And it would be awesome if Mr. Next is my forever love.

I am choosing to not let the past hold me forever from what’s before me. I have things to heal. I have beliefs to release. I have expectations to shift. And that’ll keep me pretty busy. And today I will appreciate love in all it’s forms. No jealousy. Just appreciation.

Much love to you and yours! πŸ₯°

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

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Letting Go of Shame

What are you setting free this year?

For me, I keep finding myself noticing the tendency to want to hide my truth, for fear of judgment. I’m realizing how much life I’ve given up trying to protect an image that technically means nothing to me. I’m releasing shame.

I think, honestly, a lot of shame is really centered in a fear of abuse. It’s not so much that the person feels bad about anything they’re doing. It’s more about the concern of being mistreated because of it, or ostracized, or called a “disappointment.”

So much of what it means to be a human is centered around belonging. And for those who have struggled with being treated as one who belongs, it’s often easier to hide than to stand boldly outside the box.

This year, I feel challenged to be more honest about who I amβ€”to be one person no matter where I go. For the longest time I was a different person with every person I engaged with. I morphed to become who they needed me to be, or who I felt they expected me to be.

One thing that people often say about me is that I’m authentic. And I appreciate that because it truly is a work in progress and it’s beautiful to know that people see me in that way. It shows that I am doing the work to be fully me. And it is work.

I’m gathering my parts and pieces, and accepting that being a different person in every room is too exhausting. I don’t want to work that hard anymore. I am loving myself more this year. And one way that I’m doing that is by no longer hiding parts of me. I’d rather be fully me while you cover your eyes and ears.

With that said, I am doing something that is somewhat terrifying while fully exciting. This is something that I have been wanting to share for a while, and had intended to do it in 2020, and was setting up the details for it. Then, the world shut down.

It’s taken me a long time to get back to a place of considering doing it. I was setting up to offer private, group classes, but the 3 year hiatus strongly impacted my momentum.

I’m so grateful to my friend, fellow author, and gifted intimacy coach, Angie D. Lee for hearing my desire to move forward with this venture (I call Eggplant Goddessβ„’)β€”an opportunity to empower women to feel more comfortable in the bedroom.

When I shared it with her, she was so encouraging and supportive. She offered me the opportunity to come on her podcast and I’m so grateful. This Friday, with her help, I’ll be bring my skills out the darkness and into the light.

As you must know by now, I am all about empowerment. That’s why I call myself Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist. I am particularly passionate about women’s empowerment. And that comes in many forms. One form is that I help women become comfortable pleasing their intimate partners. (Yep. I meant exactly what you think I meant. πŸ˜‚) Many women are actually insecure in this area. I’m not. πŸ˜… So, in private, I have supported many women to develop skills and confidence. But I’ve never shared this publicly.

I was going to be afraid that I would scare off my current audience or be looked at in a weird way (given that I’m also a children’s book author). But I’m so grateful for this community that I’ve created here, that constantly affirms me and lets me know that you all accept me as I am, and even encourage me to continue to be more authentic. And I thank you so much for your love and support. (I’m even cussing now. πŸ˜‚ Primarily on my podcast since it still feels weird here. πŸ˜…)

It’s such a relief to be more myselfβ€”to expose more of me so I can be more of service. I am a complex individual, with a broad set of skills, passions, and interests. And I believe I get to use all of it for the greater good. I have held myself back for so long because of fear of judgment, fear of shame, …. for fear of losing support and ultimately love.

What I realize now is that by hiding myself and by not allowing myself to serve in all the ways that I was created to serve, I am losing so much more. I’ve made gods of people while denying the god that is within me.

There will always be people to judge and there will be trolls and people who criticize. There will be people who overestimate the value of their opinion, and I just have to make peace with that.

As scary as it is, I’m done dodging the criticism. For all I know it was never coming anyway. And honestly it just reveals which people are not aligned with me…..

So… I’m setting my good girl image free. She once was me. She served her time, but it’s a new season. Bye, innocent one. 🎈😘

This was a long ass post to basically say….. “On Friday, I’ll be joining my sistas on a podcast where we’ll be talking about s*x.” πŸ˜† We’ll be addressing the shame and taboo topics, and the religious and societal influences. And we’ll be answering questions and sharing tips.

Thank you, again, Angie for allowing me to participate in your Girlfriends Chat.

Join us! This online event will be streaming live on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube. Be sure to RSVP at the link so that you are notified! https://fb.me/e/461bod2lp

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist