Make It Tolerable

Day 9 “Make It Tolerable” #IAMtheONE Share & Let’s Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

“Enjoy your lunch break at the beach, watch a movie while doing dishes, play trap music while you work. If you have to do things you don’t like, make them tolerable.” — Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

“Enjoy your lunch break at the beach, watch a movie while doing dishes, play trap music while you work. If you have to do things you don’t like, make them tolerable.” — Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
Press play to listen to today’s podcast. FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Blessings!

There are some things in life that we don’t want to do, but may have to do. What I am learning is that I can find ways to make the heavy stuff bearable.

I can listen to good music while I do that task I’ve been putting off. I can use my Pomodoro timer and reward myself for my focused time blocks by watching Bridgerton during my breaks.

When I hated my job, I would leave the house early and go to the lake before work. I would grab my lunch and go back to the lake to decompress and return.

When I grocery shop, or have to go to places notorious for having long lines, I put my headphones on and listen to fun music, or play a game on my phone. I listen to biographies and mysteries and sexy romance novels while I drive. I watch movies while I clean. I make delicious sauces to drizzle over vegetables so eating them is pleasurable.

So much of life we try to muscle through it, when we could just find ways to make it more palatable. We feel like everything has to be hard and unpleasant. But why?

If that’s works for you, go for it. But I want to enjoy my life more. There are aspects of life I would gladly not do, but they’re part of my experience. If I’ve gotta do ’em, I’m gonna find a way to enjoy myself before, after, or during. Maybe you can, too.

I talk about this on today’s podcast. Check it out!

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Blessings,

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

On my Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily podcast (and are able), please send me a $5 matcha or purchase a membership to support. (If you’re unable, please know I understand.) Thank you so much for being here!

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Sh*t, We Here, Now

Day 8 “Sh*t, We Here, Now” #IAMtheONE Share & Let’s Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Sometimes life throws sh*t at us that doesn’t make sense, stuff that doesn’t seem fair… Sometimes, it’s far worse than we could’ve ever imagined… lightyears beyond our worst case scenario.

Press play to listen to today’s podcast. FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Blessings!

We always have a choice. We can make it worse by being miserable on top of our misery, or we can throw up our hands and say, “Sh*t, we here, now.”

We can think of all the ways and reasons this moment sucks, or we can choose to see it as it is, and choose to remain present. It may not serve us, in the current moment, to think of all the reasons why this happened. We’re here now. And it may not serve us to think of all the ways this situation will get worse in the future. That type of thinking, when we’re furious and frustrated only makes matters worse.

And I’m not saying it’s easy. It’s hard as f*ck. AND we still get to choose. We don’t have control over certain things that happen in our lives, all we can do is control our response. That often starts by interrupting our thoughts. When all that frustration and overwhelm tries to take over, we have to choose to pause the flow of thoughts….

When you’re about to lose your sh*t, like I was just seconds ago, it helps to have a mantra. I just got quiet, slowed my breathing, and began to repeat, “In the present moment, all is well. In the present moment, all is well. In the present moment….”
Find one that works for you. Maybe yours will be, “Sh*t, we here now. What’s one thing that I CAN do?”

We’re getting through this! We’re not making the news. 😆 We will behave ourselves and B R E A T H E. 😌 (BTW Prayers and shout outs to all my people in the “sandwich generation.” Not easy. Let’s BREATHE extra. 😆)

Anywho… today’s podcast is empowering… and funny. I cuss a lot, but it makes sense. If these words resonated with you, check out the podcast above or below.

Listen here:
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Blessings,

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

On my Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily podcast (and are able), please send me a $5 matcha or purchase a membership to support. (If you’re unable, please know I understand.) Thank you so much for being here!

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What About Our Choices?

When you’re an intelligent person and find yourself in a stupid situation, it’s hard not to feel like an idiot. However, what I realized today, is that manipulative people are phenomenal at using various tools to work around a person’s intelligence. They get crafty to get what they want.

“Society programs women to prioritize being chosen. We’re not often taught that it’s safe and right to choose.... Let ‘em call you ‘picky.’ Choice is empowerment.” — Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist mdillondesigns.com/blog
Press play to listen to today’s podcast. FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Blessings!

Woke up and had the weirdest experience, that allowed me to see something that I never noticed before.

I ended up coming across something I wrote many years ago (it was like an essay or well-written journal entry) that gave me insight into how I ended up in relationship with my narcissistic ex. After reading through this document that I don’t remember writing, I was able to—with my current awareness—see how I ended up in that toxic situation.

If you’ve ever looked back on a relationship and wondered, “How could I be so stupid?” or “How the heck did I get fooled by that idiot?” I’ll share with you one of my major takeaways. When a person sees that we’re smart, they may tap into our emotions instead to bypass our intelligence.

When a person sees that we’re smart, they may tap into our emotions instead to bypass our intelligence.

Anywho, I’m so grateful I was up scrolling FB early this morning and came across a post that led me to stumble upon this document. It led me on a journey that led to some deeper healing. I realized I wasn’t playing the fool, although I was played by one. I wasn’t using my intelligence. I was following my heart…. and my heart was being manipulated.

I also discovered that the groundwork for this person was already laid. All they had to do was tap into it.

I share all about this on today’s podcast. This is a powerful episode. Listen above or below.

Thanks for being here!

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Day 7 “What About Our Choices?” #IAMtheONE Share & Let’s Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

On my Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily podcast (and are able), please send me a $5 matcha or purchase a membership to support. (If you’re unable, please know I understand.) Thank you so much for being here!

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Becoming My Truest Self

by Marlene Dillon

“I love the me I am now, and who I’m becoming. I move different. I think different. I choose myself now. And I no longer tolerate BS.” — Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

I love the me I am now and who I’m becoming…

It’s a beautiful thing to look back on old posts and (yeah, cringe at first, lol) see I’m not her anymore. It’s not necessary to shame myself for who I was. It’s a great opportunity to choose pride over shame.

I feel proud of my growth. I love that things I would’ve tolerated in the past, could never be a part of my life now. I love that the me I once was has evolved so much that decisions I made just years ago would be a “HELL NO!” for me today.

I am so in love with myself and that’s growing every single day. I’m learning to give myself grace, to love myself into change (rather than bully myself into it). I’m being gentle with myself, and supporting my inner child, when things are scary and new. I’m accepting that I am exactly where I’m supposed to be, doing exactly what I’m supposed to be doing, and it’s all good.

I am relaxing more, and when I find that hard I tap into my supports and practices, or lean on the universe for guidance and back up. I’m learning to accept me, for me. I’m releasing the need to be like others. I’m learning to love my uniqueness in more ways than my natural hair.

I am growing in not needing external approval, although I give myself grace to enjoy it when it comes. I am remembering who I was before the programming… before all I wanted was acceptance… back when I was aware of my greatness and fully confused at how anyone else could miss it.

I’m getting back to her… I’m getting back to me, WHILE bringing all the lessons I’ve learned along the way.

I am trusting the divinity of me and embracing the truth of that one moment at a time.

I am on a journey of becoming ME—not a better version, but my truest version.

My inner child feels loved and I feel optimistic.

The tough stuff won’t stop me. I’m gonna be alright.

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist