Turn Off the News

Let’s talk mental health…

The intention of the current administration is to use this back to back onslaught of devastating blows to leave the American public stunned and paralyzed so they can really take total control and do whatever they want.

We play into their hands by keeping their nonsense trending. Keep in mind, he’s not a politician, he’s a reality star. He’s managed to remain relevant for decades by staying in the news, regardless of how he’s failed as a business man. This is a game to him. And he’s winning.

He’s ensuring we don’t look away, by doing one thing after another of equal shock value. It’s a magic trick. A f*cked up one. While he’s got us focused over here, what’s he doing over there? It’s both mind control and distraction. And we’ve gotta look away.

I’m not saying don’t organize or do purposeful things toward regaining control of what’s within our power. I’m saying, for our mental health, we need to stop watching the baboon throw his sh*t around. We need to pause and find our center, or he’s REALLY won.

A friend shared this and it’s so powerful by @Matt Tebbe on Facebook.

This is just an excerpt that resonated with me…

“This is what they’re doing: overwhelming our nervous systems with an avalanche of awfulness so that we cannot move, or think, or regulate. So I will endeavor to:
a- limit my consumption of MAGA shock porn
b- tend to and be aware of what my body needs (sleep, joy, movement)
c- seek to move my body as a source of power into particular spaces where i can lay it down in love
d- guard against despair, apathy, numbing out as ways to medicate my body….”

So please… take a weekend and back away from the news, the posting about it, the outrage of it all. Get your feet back under you. Return to your spiritual practice, mental health practice, get outside in nature (even sitting in your car in nature is good), eat some good food, laugh, dance, play good music…

Put some distance between yourself and the mind control. Let me tell you something.

Dictators and cult leaders use the same tactics. The repetition of what they want you to believe will be echoed nonstop and if you don’t look away and shift what you’re feeding your mind….

Anyway, I think you get the point. Take a day of no scrolling. Take an hour away from the blue screen. Put on some good music for an hour and listen with your eyes closed.

Remember who you are and the power that you do have. This is an attempt to make us feel powerless. Let’s shake ourselves out of this stupor and get back in our power.

Much love to you and yours.

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

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You’re Gonna Do You

A haiku-inspired poem by Marlene Dillon

So every once in awhile, to get ideas out of my head, I will write in the style of haiku (my loose version of it, that is).

It works well for me to get clear when I need to clear my mind. I basically write in short phrases, lines that are five syllables, then seven syllables, then five syllables per stanza (or whatever they’re called).

The rigidity of the format forces me to get to the point, and helps me get the idea out of my head without all the clutter.

Today I recognize the pattern in me. I really do go above and beyond for the people I love… until I hit that point where: I realize it’s not reciprocated, I realize they are getting over on me, or I realize that doing all I’m doing is off no benefit because they don’t really care.

I don’t have to make it personal. I don’t even have to feel bad about it, or embarrassed for how long I did it. It’s just me. I’m wired that way. I want the people I love to win and if I can support them in doing so more than likely that’s what I’m going to do… until you give me a reason to stop.

I’ve been here before with exes and friends and situationships. I’ve been here with family, too. It’s just my way… or my habit of being. AND when I realize it’s pointless, I’m done. No love lost.

A few days ago I was thinking and mindset had shifted about some things. My thought was, “It’s F*ck It February,” and it stuck with me. February is my birth month and there’s a certain level of I’m going to do what I want that naturally comes with this month for me.

So today I just decided I don’t care. I’m not going to do all that I usually do. I’m just going to do what’s in my best interest today, recognizing that other people are gonna do the same. And that’s okay. They have a right.

I think we exhaust ourselves doing the most for people because that’s who we are and that’s how we want you to show up for us but we know who actually would do that stuff for us and more often than not it’s not the people that we will go and bend over backwards for. So we get to decide if we’re going to invest in that level of effort into people that would not do that for us. It’s our choice. And if we want to continue to do it because we’re not doing it for the reciprocity, then we get to do that. It’s our choice.

And today I chose to NOT do it… AND to not feel bad about it… AND to not hold it against them.

That’s the hard part, cuz you want people to treat you the way you treat them. But we can’t expect us from other people. We are specially and specifically anointed, gifted, skilled, called, and conditioned to do things the way we do it. And that’s okay.

Anyway, I thought I’d share something different with you today. I hope you got the message.

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Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Unequally Yoked

When people ask why we think we’re smarter…

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Simple discernment and paying attention can tell you all you need to know about a person’s character. You tune out what they are saying (programming you to believe what they want you to believe) and watch what they do, what they say in between the lines of propaganda, how they treat people (who they treat well and who they treat poorly), and their track record. You use their track record to decide what their intentions are and ignore what comes out of their mouths. And you decide based on their character, not their platform, if you trust them. If you had to have one of them babysit your child, who’d you choose? You know? That kind of thinking.

I hate that although I’ve stepped away from this topic, it still is on my mind. It’s on my mind because I am still making peace with the losses. I value quality over quantity. I can’t rock with people who I’m not aligned with. I believe in that phrase about people being in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. The older I get, the more I realize that not everyone makes it for that lifetime… at least not with how I navigate life.

Some people feel that you should not end relationships over values conflicts. 🤔 Well, if your values change my opinion of you as a person, hell the f*ck yeah that matters and yes I will drop you from my inner circle. Judas and Jesus had values conflicts and you see how that ended….

If you align yourself with people who OPENLY express viewpoints that contradict everything I stand for, you wrote your own exit ticket. If you align yourself with people who encourage others toward hate rather than love, when love is the center of all I do (except when I’m in anxiety, but I’m working on that), we clearly are not aligned. If you believe that your beliefs, priorities, and values are superior to all others and that others should be legally bound to follow what you believe, you’re an ignorant dumbass with such a limited world view that I don’t even know how we’re still friends. I used to be one, but then I GREW UP AND REALIZED THAT THE WORLD IS BIGGER THAN MY CIRCLE AND PEOPLE HAVE THE RIGHT TO LIVE AND BELIEVE AS THEY DO AND IT’S NONE OF MY F*CKING BUSINESS. Having those EXTREMIST beliefs makes you no better than the ones that flew into the twin towers. I. Said. What. I. Said.

I can’t rock with you when you’re not only that ignorant, but you stand by it proudly. You look at me and see a human, maybe even an exception to your rules, but don’t realize there are millions of others with their own reasons and values and loved ones that if you knew them and heard their stories, you’d feel compassion toward them, too. You’re so committed to your rules and beliefs that you will cling to them no matter what sh*t covered platter they’re served on, no matter who serves them to you, and regardless of all that comes along with it. You claim to follow haysoos, but don’t remember that he was always the one choosing love over religion and the strict rules of the church. You missed his whole message and became the very ones he opposed. You’re a modern day
“Pharisee” worshipping the antichrist thinking you’re on the right side. You don’t even see it, but we do, and we tried, because we actually have discernment.

The f*cked up part, is that I cried out. I gave so much information to wake you up, so you could see that you were following a wolf, but you what I said did not matter because you were locked in. And honestly, that’s the part that is ensuring your position on the other side of the glass. It wasn’t an… wow…. I was about to say it wasn’t an ignorant choice. And I realize, that’s actually true. I’ve been trying to make it right and give you a pass of ignorance (because it hurts too much to believe you chose knowing how it impacts me and those I love and support), but I now accept, you weren’t ignorant. I told you. All around you people have been sharing facts. You heard things with your own ears and saw things that you hopefully don’t agree with and still moved forward.

So…. I guess I wrote all this to come to the conclusion that I don’t owe you a position in my life, because you didn’t think twice about throwing us to the wolves. I don’t do enemies in my camp. It was good while it lasted. I still love you, but you’ll stay on the other side of that glass.

Blessings,

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Short version: you can’t align against everything I stand for and still be close to me. This is why so many relationships have ended over this election. This was bigger than politics. This was a decision on aligning with love or hate, equality or supremacy, intelligence or ignorance. And we all made our choices.

*This post was inspired by the results of the 2024 US presidential election.

Another great blog post that shares my stance on values-based alignment is Bully Adjacent. Tap here to check it out.

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Treat Yourself Better

Today, I acknowledged and accepted that it’s time for me to do better about taking care of myself. Better yet, it’s time for me to treat myself the way I treat the ones I love.

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