I think we’ve overdone it with the whole “communication is key.” So many people are tanking their relationships because they won’t stop talking.
On today’s podcast I talk about the power of shutting the eff up. You don’t want to miss this. AND definitely hide the children and elders, lol.
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I say it ALL on today’s podcast so I’m not gonna drag this out. Get by yourself, or throw in your earbuds, and check this out.
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Do you remember those infomercials for that countertop cooking appliance where they would say, “set it and forget it?”
I don’t know why I watched the commercial so many times, it’s probably because of insomnia or just leaving the TV on and hearing the commercial over and over again in my sleep. But one day I really paid attention and realized the actual process for doing everything to get that food cooking was waaay more steps than just “set it and forget it.” 🤣
From that point forward every time I heard the commercial or saw it on I would sit there laughing at how they were really convincing people that the other eight steps didn’t exist and that it really was just two steps. 😆
Well, earlier, I was sitting and thinking about what I did right today. And the main things came to mind. But then I realized I did a whole lot of other sh*t that wasn’t on my to-do list. So I started adding those things to the list, and checked them off, too.
Yeah, I got gas and bought bacon at the grocery store. But I also bought Heet and put it in the gas tank to ensure there was no water in my gas line after all this cold weather. Yeah, I remembered to call my aunt to let her know I received her letter that was delayed in the mail, but I also remembered to give my mom her medicine. Yeah, I got my daughter to school on time, but I also attended my accountability meeting this morning.
We can be so hard on ourselves—only acknowledging the big things we put on the calendar—but we do so much that we don’t even acknowledge.
We have no problem noticing every little thing we do wrong. We don’t miss our mistakes, but we rarely note all the things we do right. So we get to the end of our day feeling super exhausted and then we question, “Why am I so tired? I only did these three things.” No. You did a bazillion things, that you didn’t even recognize because it feels like that’s what you’re supposed to do.
Well, I’m asking you to take 2 minutes and acknowledge those things. You can write your 3 to 10 things in the comments, in a journal, speak them aloud to yourself, record it in your notes app. Just acknowledge YOU. You’re doing more than you count and it matters.
Today, I’ve gotta give a special thank you to Rihanna. Her song, “Needed Me,” healed me deeply, today. I woke up this morning with the song playing in my mind. I’ve learned over the last few months, when I wake up with a song in mind, don’t ignore it. So I sat up, found it, and pressed play. (Here’s the “clean” version, if you need it.)
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The song was EXACTLY what I needed. The lyrics were so aligned with my past experiences that I began to remember myself. And that’s what I’m going to share about, today.
Short version (of the better version I share on today’s podcast) is that when I entered my last serious relationship, I was independent, self-sufficient, and self-assured. By the time it was over, I was the complete opposite. No confidence, no self-trust, didn’t believe I could do anything independently, and have struggled ever since. I completely forgot who I was before him, but the song reminded me.
I didn’t realize how much I changed as a result of that toxic ass relationship. And I didn’t realize until today that there is still residue.
I began to look at all my past relationships (and situationships). I saw how I started out aware of myself, my power, my strength, my intelligence, skills, desirability, etc., and how by the end, I was insecure, needy, unaware of my worth, and out of touch with my most empowered self….
If you can relate to this, or feel intrigued and want to hear the rest of the story, definitely listen to today’s podcast. If you’ve ever been in a relationship that stripped you of your sense of self, you’ll appreciate today’s podcast. Trust me, you’re not alone. My hope is that my story will do for you what Rihanna’s song did for me.
Healthy love causes you to love yourself more, not less. Sometimes a relationship is good until isn’t. Sometimes it was never good. Either way, we deserve to give and receive love that feels good.
We ALL deserve love that feels like love.
Check out today’s podcast. (And remember I cuss.) This blog post is surface level by comparison to the actual podcast. Here’s an excerpt:
“to know that I deserve and then I get to have the version of life and love that matches me. That I don’t need to be other than I am. I don’t need to bow down to a system or a belief system that is completely opposed to my belief….”
So check it out. If it moves you, please share it. Someone else might need this and they’re not connected to me, yet. But they are connected to you, so please share.
BTW… Here’s another post of mine that speaks about narcissistic relationships. Some good information and resources along with my story. If you are in an unhealthy relationship, or someone you know, this post may support/resonate with you. Check out “Love Feels Like Love.”
If you’d like to check out more of my blog posts or podcast episodes, tap the button below and just keep reading, listening, and scrolling. Oh, and subscribe while you’re there so you know when I post a new one.
Tap the play button to listen to today’s podcast. Tap & hold first if necessary, then tap play.Press play to listen to today’s podcast. FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Blessings!
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