When I look back on my relationships, there’s definitely a pattern. Once I recognize I’ve been “chosen,” I race in, full of excitement, ignore the red flags, forget my intentions, and give it my all.
In retrospect, it’s always pretty embarrassing. I wonder how I forgot I said this was one I couldn’t trust, or this one was just temporary, or this one I wasn’t even interested in at all. Whether it’s a friend, partner, or business partner, there came a point when they said or did something that convinced me that I was chosen and that they “saw” me. And that meant everything to me, because it meant that they saw me as significant.
“One of the most dangerous things for a person to come across in their lives is a person with ill intentions who recognizes the one thing they want more than anything.” — Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
One of the most dangerous things for a person to come across in their lives is a person with ill intentions who recognizes the one thing they want more than anything. Why? Because they’ll become the greatest actor, and offer what the person clearly wants, just long enough to gain their loyalty and devotion. Then, they can easily get what they really came for.
So whether it’s a homeless narcissist who quickly “falls in love” because he needs a place to stay, or a person with no credentials who claims sisterhood so she can convince you to use your degree and accomplishments to partner with her in business, there are actually people out there who partner with others, by offering to feed your hunger, because they know that’s the quickest way to get what they want.
If you’ve ever (unfortunately) experienced a narcissist, that’s how, and why, lovebombing works. They quickly figure out what you need most (what you’re hungry for) and offer it until you’re fully all in. They get what they want, and when they’re done using you, they snatch that meal right back.
As I reflect on the graveyard of my past relationships, I see that each time I accepted the bare minimum because I was hungry.
Yesterday, I had an epiphany regarding where this hunger came from. And today, as I was scrolling Instagram, a video crossed my path that brought tears to my eyes. It echoed the exact same message. And upon seeing it, I knew I had to share this with you.
On today’s podcast, I talk about my epiphany and how the video impacted me. So press play (above) to listen to today’s podcast. Also, I’ll leave the Instagram video, that confirmed my hunch, below.
I hope this will help you gain some answers, some healing, and some closure, as I did.
Blessings!
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
Here’s the IG video….
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