Change Your Yes to a No

Sometimes for the sake of our mental health we need to change our minds. Maybe we said, “Yes,” when we were feeling good, or before we had time to assess other factors. We don’t want to disappoint people, so we stick with whatever we said before, even when we know we don’t have the bandwidth for it.

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Sometimes we are so loose with our boundaries that people around us make plans for us and let us know later. They assume that because of who they are, because of what we’ve always done, and because we don’t have __ (a life, a spouse, typical plans, etc.) that they can schedule us without our consent or consideration.

Sometimes our natural obligations as a partner, spouse, parent, employee, etc. cause us to give and give and give, out of our sense of responsibility and obligation, and we don’t think much of it, until we feel burned out.

Today, I chose to do what was best for me because the way I felt after years and decades of doing all of the above, I just couldn’t do it, today. I missed out on things I wanted to do because my body was so run down.

So today I shared on the podcast about this and offered you—especially you who feel you have no choice because people are counting on you/you don’t want to disappoint anyone—an opportunity to pivot from this unhealthy practice.

I have no regrets about my choice today. I put my mental health first and I’ll make peace with the multiple events I missed today. It was the right thing to do… for me.

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Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist


On my Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily podcast (and are able), please consider sending me a $5 tip via Buymeacoffee. It’s a great way to support without breaking the bank. (No pressure, of course. If you’re unable, please know I understand.)

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“Ain’t Nobody God but God”

Update: The podcast below is a post-election addition to this blog post which was written prior to the November 2024 US presidential election. So many people are feeling a sense of hopelessness right now, and I want to share some empowerment, and how I’m feeling about this season. Definitely encouraging. Check it out. Remember I cuss… plenty. lol


“Ain’t nobody God but God.” An interesting phrase that I just heard as I was listening to O’landa Draper. And it made me think about how so many of us are feeling powerless and defeated in the face of this upcoming election.

Meme: Image: Woman wearing workout clothes, standing holding a weight in one hand, other hand on her hip. 
Text states: “Ain’t nobody 
God but God.”
—Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
—O’landa Draper
“Nobody can take 
your power. You have to give it to them. And if you gave it up, you can take it back.”
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One thing that I learned from being in relationship with a narcissist is that one of their main tactics is to convince you that you are powerless and they are all-powerful. Once they convince you that you have no say, you’ll give up and bow to their will, feeling you have no choice. That nothing you do will matter. And once you give in to that type of thinking, they’ve got you.

The thing that they know is where your power lies. So that will be one of the main things they attack. Every possible defense, especially the safety we find in numbers, is another area they attack. Divide and conquer. If they can get you fighting with their enemies, or convince them that they are actually on the same side…. Narcissists use everything at their disposal toward their own cause.

I am just grateful that I heard that one little powerful line. I needed that reminder to not bow down and give up my power. I don’t need to feel weak and powerless. I don’t need to feel scared and that it’s over. It’s July, not November. That’s another tactic. Convince you that you’ve already lost so why bother?

Whether it’s elections or relationships, we have to remember that no one can take our control unless we give it to them. At any given point, we can remember that we all come into this world the same and NO ONE has more power than anyone else, regardless of how it seems. In nature, every animal has strengths and vulnerabilities. None are all powerful. No matter how powerful they may seem.

So let’s breathe and remember where our power lies.

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist


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The Ebb & Flow of Giving & Receiving

“Some of us weren’t taught that in nature there’s ebb and flow. Many of us are so unfamiliar with balance that we give until we’re depleted. We get to be loving toward others AND ourselves.” —Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

“Some of us weren’t taught that in nature there’s ebb and flow. Many of us are so unfamiliar with balance that we give until we’re depleted. We get to be loving toward others AND ourselves.”
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Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist


On my Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily podcast (and are able), please consider sending me a $5 tip via Buymeacoffee. It’s a great way to support without breaking the bank. (No pressure, of course. If you’re unable, please know I understand.)

Thank you so much for being here! Thank you for reading and listening. And double thank you for liking, commenting, and sharing. It matters so much. 🥰

*** Learn more about me, Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist! ***

Baby Steps

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“Sometimes shifting a belief has to be done incrementally. If you deal with negative, intrusive thoughts, create an affirmation that you will say each time they come up.”
—Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist 
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“Sometimes shifting a belief has to be done incrementally. If you deal with negative, intrusive thoughts, create an affirmation that you will say each time they come up.”
—Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Listen to today’s podcast here (or above):
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Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist


On my Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily podcast (and are able), please send me a $5 matcha or purchase a membership to support. (If you’re unable, please know I understand.) Thank you so much for being here!

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