So often we base our value on what we believe others think about who we are, rather than on who we know that we are. I explore that concept on today’s podcast, as I share about a growth moment I’m currently working through.
Press play to listen to today’s podcast. FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Blessings!
If you struggle with public speaking or feeling enough when you’re around the people who should know you the most (but often know us the least), this podcast is for you.
On my blog and Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily blog/podcast (and are able), please consider sending a tip via Buymeacoffee. It’s a great way to support without breaking the bank. (No pressure, of course. If you’re unable, please know I understand.)
*** Note: Due to recent technical challenges (I need a new computer), I may not post a podcast every day. I will still try to post a blog and podcast as close to daily as possible. Scroll down my Blog Page or SoundCloud to listen to hundreds of previous podcast episodes. ***
Thank you so much for being here! Thank you for reading and listening. And double thank you for liking, commenting, and subscribing! It means so much to me that you’re connecting with what I share. 🥰
One of the reasons I’m getting so good at holding my boundaries unapologetically, is that I’ve watched people disappoint me for their priorities my whole life.
It sounds bad, or negative, or whatever, but the reality is that my whole life people have put me last and expected me to get over it. So for the longest time (read as “until a few days ago”) I did everything in my power to not let people experience that kind of disappointment at my hands.
I said, “Yes,” when I wanted to say, “No.” I agreed to do things I didn’t want to do. I went along with other people’s programs regardless of how I felt, or how it inconvenienced me.
And then, I started to pay attention. I noticed how easily other people said, “No,” to me when it didn’t serve them to say, “Yes.” I noticed how people threw me under the bus to save themselves. I noticed how even those who sacrificed for me, had limits. I saw how my catastrophes, did not become their emergencies. I noticed how my priorities did not imply their compliance. I noticed how many times I had to do it on my own, or figure it out, and it did not matter to them.
And that’s when I started to slowly release myself from the people pleasing habit. I realized that the same ones who I’d break my back to please, did not nearly equally reciprocate. And instead of remaining angry at what I noticed, I let it free me.
Just like you can say, “No,” to me, unapologetically, I can begin to say, “No,” to you. I don’t have to do it out of spite. I can just do it when the answer is truly, “No.” I can begin to honor my truths, and free myself, and release the need to “keep you happy.”
And that’s another thing…. I realized how fleeting their happiness was when I did what I thought they wanted. I could do it “right,” and their happiness didn’t last. I could choose what they’ve always liked and find out that they stopped liking that without warning. I could go out of my way to put a smile on their face, and it still didn’t keep it there. And finally that got really exhausting.
This year… (yes, you read that right.. THIS YEAR… like weeks ago… if that) I accepted that other people’s happiness is not my responsibility. My entire life, I thought it was. And I was running myself ragged trying to keep people happy, trying to keep people happy with me, trying to keep people from experiencing pain.
I tried so hard and failed at it so many times. I really thought it was my role and responsibility, so I, of course, felt like a failure. I wasn’t living out my purpose—well, yeah, I was, in the cracks of time I found between trying to keep a smile on everyone’s face. I was so externally focused.
Well, if you haven’t seen this month’s theme for my podcast, it’s called, “#TAKEITEASY.” This month, I’m taking the pressure off myself by releasing the things that I’ve been holding on to that make my life harder than it has to be. Whether it’s behaviors and beliefs, relationships and rules, or just masks I’ve maintained, I’m letting them all go.
I’m going to feel so much lighter at the end of this month. And I’m so excited about it.
If you’ve tried to check out my podcast in the past, but found it challenging, or have never tried, it’s so much easier to access now. Due to challenges with my computer, I am releasing the pressure of saying I definitely will post a podcast every day. However, I typically post a podcast episode or blog post daily on my website at mdillondesigns.com/blog and I think you will love it.
I share stories, self-empowerment, encouragement, tips, tools, and inspiration, with my motto at the core (that I.U.S.E. people—Inspire, Uplift, Support, Encourage & Empower).
Some people swing by daily to get a bit of inspiration for the day. I think it’s really cool. I hope that you’ll swing by one day and get something for yourself.
As a warning, I am very real and honest. I cuss on my podcast, so choose your environment wisely. 😆
Anywho, just woke up from a nap with that on my mind and thought I’d share.
When I went to bed last night, this topic was the farthest thing from my mind. However, I woke up this morning and had a conversation with “God” that rocked my socks.
Press play to listen to today’s podcast. FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Blessings!
I’m just warning you now, if you are really religious, don’t check out this episode. It’s not for you. I’m sharing about my own journey and some of that might feel offensive. That’s NOT my intention, which is why I’m saying, “This one is not for you.”
However, if you are a person who was once devout and has transitioned into questioning, or have full on put those beliefs on the shelf (or in the trash can), I believe this episode will resonate with you.
This year has been all about releasing beliefs that don’t align with truth for me. And this episode is on some topics I previously have not discussed freely on the podcast.
Today, I decided to let it flow and I hope that it’s supportive to those who are on a similar journey. If that’s not you, again, this probably isn’t the podcast episode for you. And that’s okay. (I have plenty more! Check out out my Podcast page here.)
If you’re all in, check out today’s episode! (above or below)
On my blog and Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily podcast (and are able), please consider sending a tip via Buymeacoffee. It’s a great way to support without breaking the bank. (No pressure, of course. If you’re unable, please know I understand.)
*** Note: Due to recent technical challenges (I need a new computer), I may not post a podcast every day. I will still try to post a blog and podcast as close to daily as possible. Scroll down my Blog Page or SoundCloud to listen to hundreds of previous podcast episodes. ***
Thank you so much for being here! Thank you for reading and listening. And double thank you for liking, commenting, and subscribing! It means so much to me that you’re connecting with what I share. 🥰
“There comes a point in our lives where we start making decisions that are in our best interest and don’t give a f*ck what anybody thinks about it.” — Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
Press play to listen to today’s podcast. FYI I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Blessings!
Today’s podcast is a vulnerable one (AND a hilarious one. since I don’t really share deep topics in a deep way. 😆)
If you are neurodivergent, and not quite where you want to be in life… If you are someone who has been called “lazy” or told you “lack ambition,” when you were actually dealing with a dopamine deficiency… If you find yourself caring too much about people’s opinions about what you do/don’t do… this podcast episode is for you.
So check it out…. or share it with someone you think can benefit from it.
On my blog and Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily podcast (and are able), please consider sending a tip via Buymeacoffee. It’s a great way to support without breaking the bank. (No pressure, of course. If you’re unable, please know I understand.)
*** Note: Due to recent technical challenges (I need a new computer), I may not post a podcast every day. I will still try to post a blog and podcast when I can. Scroll down my Blog Page or SoundCloud to listen to hundreds of previous podcast episodes. ***
Thank you so much for being here! Thank you for reading and listening. And double thank you for liking, commenting, and sharing. It matters so much. 🥰
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