“If you don’t feel valuable and worthy, consider what you are using as your criteria. Is it based on your values or someone else’s?” — Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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Check out today’s podcast. It’s a great one.
Blessings!
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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So on the podcast this month, I’m talking about shifting who I am… that is, shifting from who’ve I’ve been conditioned to be to who prefer to be/who I truly am.
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Today, one of my “I am” statements came up and was making it hard for me to follow through on my intentions. Actually a few of them came up. But as I write this, I realize that the deeper message that I wasn’t hearing… the one that was really getting in the way today (and has been for a while) is, “I am good so I can’t get paid.” Because “good girls are nice just to be nice” not for a reward.
That in itself makes me really wonder about how my inner child has been impacted by that statement. Often on the podcast I have talked about inner child work, and I have even shard inner child conversations of mine. I really want to shift this belief so I’m gonna work through it.
First, of all I need to address it to my inner child and see if this is truly the core belief belief. So I will get out my paper and pen and have a conversation. I will pose the question to my inner child with my dominant hand and then wait for the answer.
Wow. Okay, that was really enlightening. I planned to do the whole conversation here but it didn’t feel natural so I stepped away, pulled out 3 large sheets of cardstock, and two colored markers, sat and my yoga mat and had the convo with my inner child. I locked my door to create a safe space and let my daughter know I’d be working so she wouldn’t interrupt. And I sat and went back and forth with my inner child.
The cool thing that came up is that my inner child wanted to be “naughty.” She said that naughty kids always got more than she did. And I can remember incidents and instances from childhood that validated her claims. I had a regularly “naughty” relative who was gifted voice lessons at the community college. They bought them for her because they thought she needed a creative outlet. They saw she liked to sing so they thought it would help her behave and redirect the energy. I actually deserved to go, but I didn’t get to, because I wasn’t “bad.”
Things like this often come up with inner child work. Things we don’t really think about as adults. But these little messages shape us in ways we don’t even see.
As the convo went on, I redirected her back to the original question about money. I asked, “What does it mean for a good girl to have money?” I thought that question would get us back on track, and it worked. Her (my inner child’s) response was, “That she doesn’t really care about the people.” And I responded, “She’s just doing it for the money?”
At this point, the conversation was clearer for me so I was able to put the paper to the side and hear the responses clearly in my mind. This is when I felt it was a good opportunity to teach, utilizing my adult knowledge, to help my inner child understand the flaws in her thinking. I asked questions that led her to her own conclusions about being able to receive money for doing nontraditional work. In this convo, one of the phrases I heard so many times throughout my childhood came up. To paraphrase, “if you don’t sweat, you don’t eat.” To this I questioned my inner child to think of jobs where people don’t have to sweat, but it’s a real job. After maybe twenty minutes of back and forth of loving communication, my inner child wrote the words, “Nice girls are nice to be nice and they get to be paid.”
I asked a few other questions to ensure that the message stuck and that a shift actually took place. And the answers aligned with the shift.
Sometimes, the beliefs we desire to change are deeper than we think. Sometimes we have to go back to the one who created them, or who is actually holding them and help that little one understand what we now understand as adults. We can’t just shift on one level. Sometimes we have to go deeper.
Thank you for going deeper with me. If you’d love to learn how to go deeper, a great first step would be to check out this book that helped me learn about inner child work. It’s called, “Recovery of Your Inner Child” by Lucia Capacchione.
Before I read it, I thought inner child work was complete nonsense. Now, I know better, and have used inner child work to develop a better, more loving relationship with myself, and to heal beliefs and past trauma. I have also taught others to use it and it’s helped them on their self-love journeys. I hope that this is helpful for you. I do highly recommend the book, if you are new to inner child work.
Blessings!
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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“It’s important that we become aware of our beliefs around who we are, how life works for us, & how we expect people to treat us.” — Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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Today is day 2 in my new series #IMAYBE. Why “I May Be?” Well… for starters, because it’s May. Last year, my daily podcast began with a series I called the #IMAYCHALLENGE, where I challenged myself to post daily for the entire month of May.
The idea behind the “I may” part was that I was making a declaration that I was giving myself permission to do _____ (“I may”), rather than asking for external permission (“May I”).
So as a nod to how this whole daily podcasting thing began, I am remixing the “I may” by adding this month’s concept of shifting who “I am,” (shifting from who I was to who I am allowing myself to be) which leads us to “I may be….”
Sooooo… on today’s podcast I began talking about how who we are impacts so much in our lives. Who we are (being how we carry ourselves, what we believe about ourselves, about what’s possible for us, about how life works for us, etc.) is something that we have just come to accept. But in this month we’ll be working on being aware of our B.A.E. (beliefs, affirmations, and expectations) regarding who we are.
We make “I am” statements all the time, often without even noticing them. We say them aloud and to ourselves in our thoughts. Whether it’s “I am broke,” or “I am fat,” “I am living my best life,” or “I am such a disappointment,” these “I am” statements are present and they are running our lives.
For this month’s podcast series, we’ll be working on being more aware of our “I am” statements and start shifting toward what we’d rather believe, affirm, and expect for ourselves.
Check out today’s episode!
Blessings!
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
Listen to today’s podcast (above or via the links below) Day 2 “Who Are You?” #IMAYBE Share & Let’s Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
I cannot be more proud of myself. I found something I love to do, it lights me up, and allows me to inspire uplift support and empower others.
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I’m proud of myself for choosing daily to remain committed no matter what. I have grown so much as a result of podcasting, by taking a few minutes every day to process the lessons that I’m learning and the meanings behind the moments. I’ve become more authentic, I’ve learned to be myself publicly and let that be okay, I’m owning my experiences and my stories, and honoring my truths… Every. Single. Day.
This is a huge accomplishment for me. One whole year of podcasting every single day no matter what was going on. About to give myself a big hug 🤗 and a round of applause. 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 If you’d like to help me celebrate, please visit my website’s support page. 🥰
On today’s podcast, I did a little celebrating, did a little teaching, and shared about what to expect from next month’s podcast series #IMAYBE! Check it out. mdillondesigns.com/blog
BTW I cuss so wait ’til the kids and elders aren’t around. Blessings!
TODAY IS MY 1 YEAR ANNIVERSARY!!!! AND YOU CAN HELP ME CELEBRATE!!!!
May 1, 2024 marks one year of podcasting daily on Share & Let’s Live! with Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist! Thank you for being here!
Show me some love! Here are some great ways to help me celebrate.
Visit one of my podcast links below AND listen to an episode or 10. It makes me feel good about the work I’m doing when I see people are listening. It matters to me.
Like and repost/share podcast episodes that speak to you. When I see reposts, I know that what I shared touched you and that you were actively moved to create a ripple effect. That is my ideal goal. More empowered people. So thank you.
Send me a tip. You can give a monetary gift via platforms you are already familiar with, including CashApp ($proud2bnaturalme), PayPal, Venmo, Buymeacoffee.com/marlenedillon and more. Thank you in advance! Visit my support page here.
You can comment with positive feedback on my posts, on my podcast episodes in the various apps, and/or down below. I love positive feedback. I am a “words of affirmation” person. So your comments matter. Thank you.
Please use the links above to listen to my podcast on the various platforms. If you want to go all the way back and listen to episodes prior to April 2024, you can find them all on my SoundCloud. (BTW remember I cuss so don’t listen around the kids & elders, unless you’re cool with that. I don’t judge. lol)
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