What do you do when you realize some of the beliefs you’ve held your whole life aren’t true? What do you do when the words that once comforted you are nothing more than empty promises? How do you process life when what you used to hold on to… doesn’t hold up to scrutiny?
Well, this where I was yesterday. And it was really emotional for me. The disappointment of feeling like a fool for the decades of putting my hope in nonsense, coupled with the frustration of watching unethical people win (while I lose)… The unfairness of it all was too much for me. Even the concept of what is “fair” and my need to now define it was all I could think about.
Needless to say, I cried yesterday… more than I knew my body was capable of crying. I had to close and lock my door because I couldn’t control it. One thought and I’d be bawling again.
Releasing what I believed not only affected my present. It also impacts my future. I had to release hopeful expectations that I to those beliefs. And then I had to accept that new beliefs needed to replace the old. And that really broke me down.
After giving 40 years, I didn’t want to have to start over with new beliefs. That’s what really got me crying.
It wasn’t truly until this morning that I realized what was truly happening. I was mourning my past beliefs…. I had to release the (inner) embarrassment that I believed that sh*t for so long. I had to accept all that it meant to find those beliefs to be false.
had attached that in order to move forward my life, I have to fully accept that what I used to believe just doesn’t work AND that the new thing lot of the words people had fed me over the years in the form of encouragement, really held no weight….
And because I am decent human being, who is not a “misery loves company” type, I won’t tell you which beliefs no longer support me. I want you to have all the hope in the world. If you are meant to come to these conclusions, you’ll get here on your own time. You’re welcome.
And with that said, as we go through life, we have experiences that may rock our core beliefs so painfully that we’ll never see things the way again.
What I learned yesterday…. well, really as I processed things today…. is that we need to allow ourselves to transition. We need to give ourselves the grace to not stop on a dime and pivot to the new beliefs. We may need to take a day (or a month) to mourn.
We move on so quickly from things. Let’s give ourselves time to accept what isn’t before we go on to redefine what is.
Blessings,
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
MDillon Designs & Publishing 