Today, I’ve gotta give a special thank you to Rihanna. Her song, “Needed Me,” healed me deeply, today. I woke up this morning with the song playing in my mind. I’ve learned over the last few months, when I wake up with a song in mind, don’t ignore it. So I sat up, found it, and pressed play. (Here’s the “clean” version, if you need it.)
The song was EXACTLY what I needed. The lyrics were so aligned with my past experiences that I began to remember myself. And that’s what I’m going to share about, today.
Short version (of the better version I share on today’s podcast) is that when I entered my last serious relationship, I was independent, self-sufficient, and self-assured. By the time it was over, I was the complete opposite. No confidence, no self-trust, didn’t believe I could do anything independently, and have struggled ever since. I completely forgot who I was before him, but the song reminded me.
I didn’t realize how much I changed as a result of that toxic ass relationship. And I didn’t realize until today that there is still residue.
I began to look at all my past relationships (and situationships). I saw how I started out aware of myself, my power, my strength, my intelligence, skills, desirability, etc., and how by the end, I was insecure, needy, unaware of my worth, and out of touch with my most empowered self….
If you can relate to this, or feel intrigued and want to hear the rest of the story, definitely listen to today’s podcast. If you’ve ever been in a relationship that stripped you of your sense of self, you’ll appreciate today’s podcast. Trust me, you’re not alone. My hope is that my story will do for you what Rihanna’s song did for me.
Healthy love causes you to love yourself more, not less. Sometimes a relationship is good until isn’t. Sometimes it was never good. Either way, we deserve to give and receive love that feels good.
We ALL deserve love that feels like love.
Check out today’s podcast. (And remember I cuss.) This blog post is surface level by comparison to the actual podcast. Here’s an excerpt:
“to know that I deserve and then I get to have the version of life and love that matches me. That I don’t need to be other than I am. I don’t need to bow down to a system or a belief system that is completely opposed to my belief….”
So check it out. If it moves you, please share it. Someone else might need this and they’re not connected to me, yet. But they are connected to you, so please share.
BTW… Here’s another post of mine that speaks about narcissistic relationships. Some good information and resources along with my story. If you are in an unhealthy relationship, or someone you know, this post may support/resonate with you.
Check out “Love Feels Like Love.”
Blessings!
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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