This morning I decided to #danceoutofbed to the most fun kids song.
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Adulting can be exhausting and heavy and just… much. Sometimes we need to take a little break.
We’re always ripping and running and doing the most. Sometimes we just need a minute to just be. Go find those shows you used to watch as a kid. Grab yourself a bowl of cereal and take a break.
Check out today’s episode. It’s inspiring, empowering, and lots of fun.
Carve out 15 minutes for yourself and #TAKEITEASY.
Blessings!
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
BTW… If you want to hear the song I was listening to, check out Kimmy Schwimmy – I’m Gonna Be an Astronaut on YouTube. Here’s the link: https://youtu.be/jo5cCmbnWTc
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“Don’t just go through, grow through.” —Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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I was just sharing with a friend about a situation that I’m dealing with and advocating for my child which is a much bigger part of parenting than I ever realized and the thing that the thing about it is that in having to advocate for my child I have come to the realization about why that’s scary for me
What I realized today is that I was raised in a system that discouraged me from standing up for people and from standing up for myself.
So when the situations called for it for me to step up and advocate for my child, I would do it but I would be terrified I would be reluctant I would be frustrated that I had to do it at all I would be angry at the situation but probably angrier that I had to do something about it because it felt really uncomfortable.
And I’m just being honest about this because that’s what I do here. I share about my personal growth journey with the intention to show you that it is possible for you to grow, too. My hope in sharing is that if you can relate to my stories, you can catch the lessons. I share because I believe in saving people time. Some people go through things and because they went through it, they feel like other people should also have to go through it. I am very different. I believe that if I went through it, if I care about you, I will help you to not have to go through what I went through. I don’t feel that you have to go through the same pain. You can just catch the lesson and move on. Granted some people need to go through things themselves in order to catch on and if that’s what’s necessary, then by all means do you.
I, on the other hand, have since childhood been very much a person who did not need to go through things myself. I learn from other people’s lessons.
So today’s lesson was that maybe you’re afraid to speak up for yourself because when you were a kid it was unsafe for you to do so. That’s what I discovered today—that I have been afraid to advocate for myself, to advocate for others, to call people out when they are out of order, whenever I thought there was any potential for them to lash out at me (or even just feel offended). My childhood experiences taught me that it is not safe to speak up.
And as a person who teaches a parenting communication course, it would be a wasted opportunity for me to not also say that as parents we need to be aware of how we assert authority over our children. Yes, they need to understand that you are in charge. But do our children need to feel that their safety is at risk when they rightfully advocate for the truth?
Why must our egos be so big that if our child is correct, and we are incorrect, that we cannot say that? Even if we need to step away and gather ourselves as we realize that we were wrong, we do not lose their respect by going back to them and saying, “You know what? You were right.” However we do lose their respect by not admitting when we are wrong and they are clearly right (and they know they’re right), or worse bullying them to back down because we are the big bad adults and don’t want to admit to them that we were wrong.
Today I learned that being bullied to back down when I knew I was right as a child conditioned me to feel unsafe to speak up for injustice. The message is deeply ingrained because as a child I was someone who could not keep her mouth shut when she saw someone being mistreated. And each time I spoke up an adult let me know that I had absolutely no right whatsoever to do so. Whether it was a look, words, or energy, I was made to know that speaking up will get you knocked down. So to this day when I need to speak up, my body gets tense, I feel really uncomfortable, and I want to run away from the problem (rather than address it) because I fear the repercussions.
Today, I did some inner child work around that. I sat with myself and really processed what was going on. I thought about the beliefs and perspectives of those who raised me, and accepted that I was not wrong in those situations, and that the adults did not handle those moments in a healthy way. I acknowledged that they did not have the emotional intelligence to do so, and based on their belief system, they felt they were doing the right thing. And I made it clear to myself—to my inner child—that it impacted me, that I was right to speak up, and that I am grown now and get to decide from this point forward that I am safe to speak up for myself and right to advocate for those who need my advocacy.
You get to hear my process as you listen to today’s podcast. If you found value in this post, definitely listen to the podcast above.
Sorry. Long day. Lots of processing so I’m just gonna end it here. Check out the podcast.
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Yeah… Some days I’m deep with the titles. Today, is not one of those days.
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Most of us were not raised to care about how our behavior and words impact children. More than likely most of the adults that we knew as children didn’t care about things like that. “Respect is earned” and apparently not until you’re grown grown (yes, I meant to write that twice).
This particular podcast episode is primarily speaking to parents, HOWEVER, the concept is transferable. Whether it’s your child, your spouse, your partner, your homie… certain things don’t need to be discussed at the start of someone’s day. Arguments first thing in the morning eff up a person’s day. Being confronted about certain topics/in certain ways is a set up for a bad day.
We could do that less. We can apply the Golden Rule. We can think before we speak and empathize. We can think about if we’d want someone yelling at us for the whole ride to work, when we have a big presentation that morning. That’s basically the same thing as yelling at our child (about not taking out the trash, or cleaning their room, or even about their grades) minutes before they enter a classroom to take an exam, or just to do a regular day of school.
It’s not that we never get to voice our concerns. It’s about when and how. It’s about the root of why we’re doing it. If it’s coming from love, we can deliver it in love. If we’re doing it from a place of fear (i.e. “Let me tell you what’s not going to happen around here because I’m afraid that if I don’t you will….”) then that’s something entirely different.
We can be more mindful of how our words and behavior impact our loved ones. And you may be thinking, “They don’t care how their words and behavior impact me.” And maybe that’s true. Sometimes, however, we think we’re being mistreated by them, when their behavior is in retaliation/reaction to our behavior and words toward them that they may not have voiced. Just sayin’.
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So much of society is centered around fitting in and being like everyone else. That didn’t start on social media. From our families to our schools, being different is rarely celebrated. However, our uniqueness is our gift to the world. It’s a huge part of why we’re here.
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I have spent most of my life trying in vain to fit in. I pushed myself to try to comprehend quicker, to catch on to the lingo, to learn what makes people mad and what makes them smile. In a lot of ways those skill sets help me now to connect with people and develop rapport very quickly. However, I built those skills just trying to be a part of the crowd.
One thing that I realize more every day is that coming into yourself is often about reattaching the parts you discarded along the way…. in an attempt to be accepted. It’s as if self-acceptance is about flipping the priority from needing to be what other people want for/from you to what you want for/from yourself.
One of the gifts of not fitting in… and finally accepting it… is that I now realize that I like myself. I like becoming the me that wasn’t enough for others. I am more available to be of service to this world by being fully me than by attempting to be a carbon copy of everyone else.
And I believe the same applies to you.
Today’s episode is about my discoveries/epiphanies this morning about this concept. I’d love for you to check it out, but more importantly, I believe it may benefit you, and I don’t want you to miss that opportunity.
On my blog and Share & Let’s Live! podcast, I share tips and tools that are transforming my life and mindset every single day. If you appreciate this FREE daily blog/podcast (and are able), please consider sending a tip via Buymeacoffee. It’s a great way to support without breaking the bank. (No pressure, of course. If you’re unable, please know I understand.)
*** Note: Due to recent technical challenges (I need a new computer), I may not post a podcast every day. I will still try to post a blog and podcast as close to daily as possible. Scroll down my Blog Page or SoundCloud to listen to hundreds of previous podcast episodes. ***
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