A few days ago, I wrote on my bathroom mirror, “Love yourself the way you want to be loved. Give it to yourself.”
The idea came to me after some deep reflection about a love I once had that was so beautiful. I remembered the many times that as I was talking to him, I’d notice the love beaming from him. I could see it in his eyes that he adored me. The intensity was distracting and would make me forget my words and smile back at him. As I thought of the beauty of that, I became sad for a second that he’s no longer in my life. That’s when my inner knowing reminded me that during that relationship I received guidance that the relationship would not last, and that I should treat the experience as a “tutorial in self-love.”
As I thought about how he loved me, I realized that I can give those things to myself. I am worthy of radiating that kind of love to myself. So I wrote the words on my bathroom mirror, to remind myself to use my mirror to love myself. I get to give myself the love I periodically miss as I remember what has been. I get to look in my own eyes with that deep adoring love. I get to see every inch of me as beautiful. I get to see my weirdness and awkwardness as adorable. I get to see the beauty of my scars, my resilience, my mind….
And then I get to add another layer of love. I get to love myself the way I love my loved ones. I get to show up for myself the way I show up for others. I get to believe in myself the way I believe in others. I get to go hard for myself the way I go hard for others….
We deserve the love we so readily give to others. When we long for connection externally, it’s an awesome time to check in with ourselves and see if we are giving ourselves that love. We get to connect with ourselves. We get to tap into the core of what we desire, ask ourselves, “What do I want to feel?” and find ways to give that to ourselves. In doing so we radiate the energy that we desire to draw to us.
Have you ever been in a really great mood and noticed that people were extra kind? They hold the elevator for you, they smile and say, “Good morning,” you get all the green lights, and the up front parking spaces. It’s the vibe. Your vibe attracts like energy.
Similarly, it has been my experience that when I am loving myself sincerely, when I’m feeling great about myself, when I’m enjoying my own company, that’s when aligned relationships float into my life… effortlessly. So rather than miss the love I once had, I choose to remember it, and find ways to give it to myself. As I love me, I radiate the vibe that will draw an even better love into my life.
Love yourself the way you want to be loved. Give it to yourself.
Know that you deserve it.
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
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