Win or Lose?

Is your mind’s default setting toward winning or losing. I just realized that mine often sets me up for a lose-lose. Let me explain.

Image of pensive woman looking at her reflection in the mirror. Text states: Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist "Pay attention.... sometimes our thoughts set us up for a lose-lose."

Sharing something that just happened to me because it may help you….

So I had a series of applications to work on lately. Super stressful for me because paperwork makes me anxious and requires a higher level of executive functioning than I typical employ.

After completing several multipage online applications, I just didn’t have it in me to do another one. It was the last one, but I kept putting it off assuming it was going to take forever.

I finally set my pomodoro timer today, sat down and got myself to work on it. Unlike the others, it took like 15 minutes. 😐

I was super excited when I realized I was at the “Submit” screen. Once I hit that button and saved the page for my records, that voice started in on me. “Wow. You could’ve submitted that paperwork a week ago. You could be getting your results this week rather than worrying about having waited so long.”

I was texting my AP about it when something clicked. The same inner critic that is telling me I could’ve completed it a week ago, is the same one that was talking me out of doing it all week.

Keep paying attention to that annoying—trying to be helpful—voice. Pay attention to the patterns. You’ll start recognizing that “catfish.”


Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Follow my blog to learn more about the “catfish.” My upcoming book, “You’re Being Catfished: 7 Strategies for Overcoming Your Inner Critic” is set to release this November!

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Published by Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Marlene Dillon is the CEO of MDillon Designs & Publishing. I teach girls to believe in themselves and choose relationships that support their goals. I teach children that their dreams are possible and that they are lovable. I teach parents to communicate with their children in healthy ways. In short, I.U.S.E. people. Inspire. Uplift. Support. Empower.

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