A lot of times we find ourselves feeling down when things aren’t going as we believe they should. We are convinced our plan is best. It feels amazing to travel through life with no detours or delays. I’m not so sure how realistic that is though.
What I am learning is that the ebb and flow is part of the journey. One comfort that I have gained recently is to realize that I see my life from the ground level—the street view. I can only see what’s directly in front of me, not what’s coming down the road. That’s not the comforting part, lol. The comfort is that I get to remember in any given situation that there is an aerial, or bird’s eye, view that I cannot see. From that perspective, every traffic jam and reroute makes perfect sense. From that perspective it is apparent that no matter how it seems on the ground, I am on the best route.
For people, like me, it’s challenging to surrender control. When life throws us the unexpected detour, and the journey doesn’t look the way we thought it would, we easily lose faith. We know the route we planned. We want to stick to it, because it makes us feel safe. Being in control feels safe.
Lately, I’ve been experimenting with giving up control. In moments when my GPS refuses to cooperate, I just toss my phone aside and say, “Hey, you know my intentions and you probably know a better way. Guide me.” I honestly can’t tell you specifically who I’m speaking to. It could be Jesus, the angels, guides, ancestors… it doesn’t matter to me. I just know they help when I ask. Within in seconds, I feel calm and inspired to turn here, then there, then cross over that bridge, and suddenly I’m looking at the upgraded version of my vision.
Even when I’m having a moment of contrast—when I’m feeling frustrated that things aren’t as I desire—I remember that I have support surrounding me, and surrender. I relax into that knowing that there is a way for things to work out even though I can’t see it. And somehow things shift. Even when the situation can’t change, my view of it suddenly changes.
With these recent shifts, I am realizing daily that control is overrated. Honestly, as much as I’ve tried to manipulate every detail of every second of my life, it’s far from ideal. I’ve still been thrown so many curve balls that it’s a wonder I am still sane. But I’m still here. Despite all of it. When think of all the things I worry about on a daily basis, and then look at all I’ve survived, worry seems so silly.
It’s exhausting trying to manage and manipulate every one of life’s detail. And it’s pointless. So I’m going to keep experimenting with remembering I’m supported, setting an intention, and surrendering to guidance. No matter how big or small, I get to trust that I am supported.
If you’re one, like me, who is exhausted from micromanaging the details, maybe consider giving up a little control. Try it on something small. Maybe instead of ordering from the same restaurant, you try the one your friend recommended. Maybe you watch that Netflix show that keeps showing up. It could be your new favorite. Maybe you intentionally make a wrong turn and let the GPS reroute you, and take the scenic route for a change.
Maybe you’ll join me in saying my new affirmation, “Despite life’s detours and delays, I choose to believe I am on the best route.”