Sometimes we make decisions that feel right in the moment, because we are making moves with limited information. For some, appearances matter so much that we’d rather sit in a sewer and call it paradise, rather than have to admit that we were wrong.
I learned from an early age to keep people out of my business and always present external perfection. Nothing was more embarrassing than being perceived as not “together.”
Well, today, I thought about that and realized how much of a trap that is. Needing to keep up appearances so others who are not even directly affected can continue to view me as…. I don’t even know what… because who actually views any other human as perfect? I think many of us carry the weight of this unattainable goal and standard that few are even holding us to.
I make mistakes. I get it wrong. I am wise, AND sometimes I make choices that aren’t it. Today, I am giving myself grace to do what I need to do to be fully at peace in my life. And I see a choice I made that was premature and I am giving myself the grace to pivot.
Maybe there is an area in your life where you could use a little grace to pivot. If you’re really in swamp or a sewer, maybe it’s time to at least be honest with yourself and start looking at what your possibilities and potential next steps. Take the blinders off and look around you.
What do you really see? Are you surrounded by red flags? I’m not telling you to make any sudden moves, but at least pay attention. Stop ignoring them. Stop collecting them. Stop looking through them and SEE them. Red flags are not decorations, and we can’t keep storing them and putting them behind us. They are still present. At some point we’ve gotta wake up and accept what we see.
For me, maturity is choosing to move differently now that I have more awareness. And that’s not easy. There may be some embarrassment. There may be some uncomfortable conversations. There may be some hurt feelings. But what there won’t be… is me over here pretending I don’t see what I see. And I hope you won’t keep ignoring what you see.
Blessings.
Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
MDillon Designs & Publishing 